Where Do You Draw The Line?

The blogs I write, the “Bonus” I give out on each episode of the podcast – heck, the podcast itself – there is a general thread woven throughout all-things-Now-Hear-This which is gratitude, kindness, being a pro, getting ahead – you get the picture.

However, there does come a time when you have to decide when being too nice is painting you into a corner.

Let me say upfront that I’m not advocating for being belligerent, disrespectful, unprofessional, and the like, just because I am saying that at some point you need to put your foot down.  You can stand your ground and still not be remembered as the hothead who blew their cork at the first sign of adversity.

You are working very hard at furthering your career, however, and you do have to preserve your character.  Reputations are on the line practically every day, and you don’t want yours to be that of someone who is easily walked on and taken advantage of.

The cliché “go with your gut” is, interestingly, actually a pretty good motto to have.  I have actually even heard my pastor reference this as it refers to considering an act that you think must be what a Christian should do.

Of course, timing is important.  Do you have to be quick on your feet, or is there time to let the situation breathe?  Sleeping on it is another commonly used expression, but one that, when practiced, yes, let’s cooler heads prevail, but in reality means that you can make a more informed – and less emotional – decision.  Furthermore, when there is time available to react, as opposed to on the spot, you can consult with others.

This brings up the topic of who you should be surrounding yourself with.  Yes, an attorney (preferably one who specializes in the entertainment business) is a logical start.  But, someone you are close with who is just flat out a good, successful business person can help add an educated opinion.  Then there is someone who does the same thing you do (i.e. another singer, another songwriter, another musician).  They can relate to your situation.  And, of course, a trusted loved one who has your best interests at heart.

A friend of mine says that “when all is said and done, more is said than done.”  Well, after all of the above discussions, a lot might get said, and in the end all that needs to get done is walking away!  Consider the opposing side’s sphere of influence – or lack thereof – as well as their geographic location.  While it’s true you never know who might come back around six months or six years later, chances are a lot better that someone ten states away (as opposed to ten miles away) isn’t going to be back at the table talking business with you anytime soon.

Pride can be confused with ego in these instances, so be careful.  You do have to protect your pride, so don’t let your ego spin out of control in doing so.  And if you do have to draw the line, don’t do it in the sand.  People can still actually walk away from you with a “Wow, he means business” level of respect.